a Mentor, a Dom, or a Lover?

I once told that sex is not equal to love.  The same rule apparently applies to BDSM.  Your play partner is not always your sex partner.  Your play and sex partner is not always your Lover.  Your Lover is not always your Dom.  Your Dom is not your Mentor.

Throughout my journey as a curious fun lover Protege,  I heard different definitions for Mentor, Dom, and Lover. It's a bit confusing  sometimes since everyone seemed to have their own descriptions. So I decided to find out the best fitting version. 

Here are what I found based on encounters:

A Mentor is your equal, your guide, your friend, in your journey to be the best and responsible you (Dom or sub). A Mentor is providing guidance, advice, example, support, though he/she will/can yell at you or request you (with a threat in it) to fix thing(s) you are reluctant to do when you made foolish mistake(s). A Mentor is not just a skilled, experienced, responsible role model, but also someone who is willing to invest his/her time, patience, to help you to walk through your path in confidence. 

Ideally a Mentor is mentoring the same role as he/she is.

Before a Mentor there is always a Trainer. He/she is your teacher, an authority, skilled, experienced figure who provides you with learning sessions until you are capable living your role by the standard. 

A Trainer can be your Dom or an expert. In a rare case, a sub can be the initial Trainer for a Dom to be. 

And in an exclusive D/s relationship, it is common for a Dom/Domme to insert his/her preferences or specific requirements in the respective sub training.

A Dom/Domme is a dominant who is granted by the universe and mostly by a sub to receive the respected sub freely given gifts of submission within the agreed limits. He/she is responsible for orchestrating desirable, pleasurable, intimate, intense, out of the world scene through senses and mind games with his/her play partner(s) while at the same time is expected to adhere a safe and sane play as well.  In exclusive D/s relationship a Dom/Domme role is extended to protection, provider, care giver.

Neverless, a Dom is a human being. A Dom can make mistake. A Dom can make jokes and laugh. A Dom can use safeword. A Dom can experience Dom drop and require Aftercare. BUT... an asshole dominant is just an Abuser.

A Lover is ... your Dom, or your Trainer, or your Mentor, or your play partner, or that cute /handsome ... (go figure).

So, which one is you, which one is someone you're with: a Mentor, a Dom, or a Lover? Or ALL of the above?

xoxo currious fun lovers!